Melanie Verwoerd
Nike Air Max 2016 Premium - Men Shoes,

On Sale Cheap Air Jordan 6 Rings Court Purple Club Pink Black Flash Lime 322992-515

2018-05-30 07:47

Nike FS Lite Run 4 - Men Shoes,Sale Nike Pioneer Shoes Mens Black 291079OCNike Zoom Streak Light 3 - Men Shoes, Advanced - Houston Oilers Warren Moon #1 Authentic Throwback Jersey Bluecustomized nfl jerseysnfl jerseys nike eliteUK Cheap Sale,Art - Philadelphia Eagles Riley Cooper #14 Authentic W 50th Anniversarnfl shop jerseysnfl jerseys cheap near meoutlet store sale,

2017 Nike Selling Women's Nike Air Max 1 Essential White/Hot Lava/Sunset Glow Shoes Canada ECC9903979

If someone experiences an action or utterance as racist does it necessarily make it racist, or does the intention of the "perpetrator" make a difference in how harshly someone should be judged for their words or actions? 

Brand - Dallas Cowboys Tony Romo #9 Youth Authentic Jersey Whiteyouth jerseys nflnfl jerseys for sale for saleHottest New Styles,Sale Nike Mercurial Victory Indoor Football Trainer Mens Black/Pink 647448WRCatalogo Guess Sweater Men BGY Joaquin Cardi Antracite Colorguess promo codeguess toptimeless design,,Classics - San Francisco 49ers Colin Kaepernick #7 Authentic Jersey Redcheap authentic jerseys nflnfl jerseys for sale in storeShop Best Sellers,Cute - 2011 New Chicago Blackhawks #50 Corey Crawford Red NHL Jerseys Infl jerseys salenfl jerseys wholesale free shippingTop Designer Collections,.Sale Nike SB Portmore Skate Shoes Mens Black/White 897579IIDiscount - MLB Minnesota Twins Kirby Puckett #34 Throwback Jersey Whitecheap nfl jerseysnfl jerseys nike or reebokUK Factory Outlet,.

These questions have arisen with a renewed sense of urgency for me during the debate that erupted after Ashwin Willemse walked off the set of SuperSport recently.

Although I don't want to debate the specifics around this case, it did raise fundamental questions about experience as well as the role of intention for me.

E-commerce - Carolina Panthers Jonathan Stewart #28 Authentic Jersey Whitenfl discount jerseyscheap nfl nike jerseys free shippingClassic Styles,Sale Nike Tanjun Chukka Sn64 Shoes Mens NgtMaroon/Black 330850LIExcellent Value - Minnesota Twins Delmon Young #21 W50th Season Patch Graypersonalized jerseys nflauthentic nfl jerseys stitched100% Satisfaction Guarantee,,Exhibit - MLB St. Louis Cardinals 1944 Stan Musial #6 Throwback Jersey Whicheap nfl authentic jerseysauthentic nfl jerseys cheapBiggest Discount,Favourable Comment - Oakland Raiders Darren McFadden #20 Youth Authentic Jersey Blackcheap authentic jerseys nflnike nfl jerseys patriotstimeless,.Sale Nike Nightgazer Trainers Shoes Mens Black/Black/Gry 336618KTferragamo men black falt shoes 07saatore ferragamo ferragamo handbagscoupon codes,.

In certain cases of crude racism, such as the use of the k-word or explicit racial or sexual stereotyping, there can be no debate. It is racist or sexist no matter what the perpetrator claims to have been the intention or circumstances. Thus, the courts could rule on Penny Sparrow's tweets and Vicky Momberg's outbursts.

Although there are undoubtedly many people who are still guilty of these overt incidences of racism, I believe it is the less crude forms of prejudice, which are so prevalent in our society, that often cause the biggest damage. It is in the tone of voice, the patronising smile, the body language, institutional cultures and systems. Yet, despite or perhaps because of its insidious nature, it is often tolerated until some trigger causes a dramatic reaction.

Girls ED-GL002ed hardy cheaped hardy online shop canadaBest Discount Price,Sale Nike Solarsoft Slide Flip Flops Mens Grey/Volt 208132NMGood Product - NHL Vancouver Canucks Christian Ehrhoff #5 Authentic Jersey Bluenfl stitched jerseyscheap nfl nike jerseys usa100% top quality,,High Discount - Oakland Raiders #12 Ken Stabler Throwback Black Color Football Jnfl sale jerseysnfl jerseys for sale cheapprofessional online store,Image - Dallas Cowboys Felix Jones #28 Authentic Jersey Whitenfl jerseys cheap authenticauthentic stitched nfl jerseys cheapIn Stock,Shop Nike Air Max Motion Trainers Shoes Mens Grey/Blue 826031ANInternationa - San Francisco Giants 2004 Barry Bonds #25 Throwback Jersey Grayreplica nfl jerseysnfl jerseys cheap usatimeless design,.

As a white person, I have only on the very rare occasion experienced racism – and it was horrible. But as a woman, I deal with sexism on an almost daily basis. (I immediately want to acknowledge that I am conscious that I am at the tip of the pyramid of injustice. As a woman I experience sexism, but because of my race, class and sexual orientation I will always experience far less discrimination than, for example, a black, gay or poor woman.)

2017 Nike Thes Women's Nike Air Max Tailwind 8 University Red/Hyper Orange/Volt/Black Shoes Canada FMU1104061

Like - MLB Oakland Athletics Andrew Bailey #40 Alternate Cool Base Jersnfl jerseys on salenfl jerseys wholesale nikeBiggest Discount,Shop Nike A Max Motion Lw Sn64 Shoes Mens Blue/White 614764ASMake - Baltimore Ravens Lardarius Webb #21 Authentic Jersey Blackcustomizable nfl jerseyscheap nfl nike jerseys free shipping100% authentic,,Men Jumpers & Cardigans Napapijri DICKIN - Jumper - blue marinenapapijri rainforest winter reviewrecognized brands,Most Beautiful - Cincinnati Bengals Cedric Benson #32 Authentic Jersey Blacknfl jerseys salenfl jerseys patriotsAuthentic,Shop Nike Air Zoom Fly 2 Running Shoes Mens Volt/Black 346615DLNew Listing - 50th Anniversary San Diego Chargers Malcom Floyd #80 Authentic Jwholesale jerseys nflauthentic nfl jerseys vs fakeClearance Sale,.

Although I experience crude sexism far less these days (perhaps men are a bit more careful around me), I can think of at least three instances in the last four days where I was patronised by men. I'm sure that all these men would argue that they did not intend to patronise me. Yet, it was without doubt patronising. How can I be so sure? Because, you know it when you feel it.

That is, for me, the key and part of the answer to my original question. If it is experienced as racist or sexist it almost certainly is. You know it when you feel it.

Of course, given upbringing and conditioning linked to our political history, it is also true that people honestly do not always understand that or why something they say or do is racist. Thus, they are honest in their defence of "I did not intend to be racist". However, that can too easily become a blanket excuse. "I did not mean to kill that person" could still result in a manslaughter conviction in court. Equally, "I did not intend to patronise or racially abuse you" can never alleviate the burden of injury or need for restitution.

New York - MLB New York Mets David Wright #5 Road Cool Base Jersey Grayshop nfl jerseysauthentic nfl jerseys vs buyUnbeatable Offers,Shop Nike Essentialist Canvas Trainers Shoes Mens Blue/DkBlue 913482UVOriginal Authentic Licensed - MLB Philadelphia Phillies Authentic Raul Ibanez #29 Home Cool Bathrowback nfl jerseyscheap authentic stitched nfl jerseys storeOnline Retailer,,Popular - Cincinnati Bengals CARSON PALMER #9 Authentic Jersey Blacknew nfl jerseys 2012nfl jerseys wholesale free shippingoutlet for sale,Proud - MLB Tampa Bay Rays Authentic Evan Longoria #3 Alternate Cool Basnfl jerseys stitchednfl jerseys wholesale online shopvast selection,.Shop Nike Downshifter 6 Trainers Shoes Mens Black/Blk/Volt 264575BRRemarkable - Mitchell & Ness Chicago Bears Eddie Payton #34 BIG NUMBERS Throwyouth jerseys nflauthentic nfl jerseys storereliable reputation,.

So what does restitution involve? On the most basic level it requires the willingness to listen and hear the "other" (both individually and collectively) when they express their pain, hurt and anger. There must be a willingness to accept the point of view of the person/s who have been offended, no matter what the intention was. So, not to say: "I did not intend it that way" or "don't play the race card" as I so often hear people say. The listening should be followed by a sincere apology and measures or actions to fix the problem.

Importantly, we should remember that institutional and systemic racism and sexism are even more insidious and thus more difficult to pin down. However, they exist – big time. Those who feel them, know it. As with individual cases, systemic and institutional apologies as well as restitution are extremely important (think: land debate at the moment).

Of course, it does require that someone has to express the hurt or offence that was felt. Often that does not happen and when it finally does people are surprised and shocked.

Series - Washington Redskins Art Monk #81 Authentic Throwback Mesh Jerseynfl jerseys saleauthentic nfl jerseys near meOfficial supplier,Shop Nike Kaishi Run Trainers Shoes Mens White/Black 384188DQTemperament - Carolina Panthers Steve Smith #89 Authentic Jersey Blackstitched nfl jerseyscheap nfl nike jerseys stitchedtop brands,,TOMMY HILFIGER Casual trouser Light grey men Trouserstommy hilfiger discountever-popular,,Unparalleled - Boston Celtics Rajon Rondo #9 Authentic 2010 Finals Patch Jerseynfl wholesale jerseysnfl jerseys wholesale buy100% Satisfaction Guarantee,Shop Nike Hypervenom Phelon AG Football Boots Mens Hyper Grape 651211HPYearn For - New York Knicks Chauncey Billups #4 Authentic Jersey Whitenew nfl nike jerseysnfl jerseys for sale in storeTop Designer Collections,.

I have to confess with all three cases of feeling and being(!) patronised I did not say or do anything. There are many reasons for it. I did not want to make a scene, I did not think it would change that person and sometimes I am just tired of fighting a bunch of sexists.

My guess is that many people who experience racism would give similar reasons for not always reacting.

But, I also know that even though I often don't react to sexist behaviour, every incident finds a home in my body and mind where it quietly waits till the one day when I have just had enough. Enough of being patronised through words, body language and actions. Enough of a system that assumes that I am inferior, must earn less and behave in a certain way purely because I am a woman. 

Adidas X 15.2 Cg Astro Turf Trainers Core Black/Flash Red/Night Flash D58v1954,Shop Nike Prime Iron DF Training Shoes Mens Black/White 494244KEAdidas X 15.1 Fg/Ag Football Boots Core Black/Shock Mint/White Q1e5938,,Adidas Madoru 2 Cushioned Running Shoes Core Black/Night Metallic H35x1918,.Adidas Solar Boost Cushioned Running Shoes Bold Pink/Silver Metallic/Core Black J60q8273,Shop Nike Zoom Cage 2 Court Trainers Shoes Mens Black/Grey/Blue 150125MDAdidas Ligra 3 Volleyball Shoes White/Night Navy/Silver Metallic C87p4708,.

As many men would be able to testify, once I reached that point of "enoughness" I certainly did not just politely walk off "set".

And so, when someone says, "I feel patronised" or "that is racist" we need to understand that it is always just the tip of the iceberg and all of us (individually and collectively) need to react in a manner that shows some humility and acceptance of our prejudices – intended or not.

2017 White Nike Shoes Womens Men's Nike Air Zoom Streak 5 Bright Crimson/Black/Volt Shoes Canada BTI0301594

Adidas Terrex Swift Walking Shoes Semi Solar Slime/Core Black/Chalk White F87x7033,Shop Nike Tanjun Se Sn64 Shoes Mens Blue/Black 957263MIAdidas Duramo Trainer Sports Shoes Core Black/Shock Green M80e7993,,Adidas Adipure 360.3 Sports Shoes Black/Night Metallic/Frozen Yellow X79r4621,Adidas Stan Smith Adicolor Trainers Yellow V25r2846,.Specials Nike Air Max Siren Trainers Shoes Mens White/Black/Gry 533218PVAdidas Superstar Rt Trainers Red K89z1524,.

Read more on:    prejudice  |  racism
X
Adidas Tubular Radial Trainers Green C14a3307,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14
NEXT ON NEWS24X
Adidas Pureboost X Tr Sports Shoes White/Core Black/Shock Pink M53j1855,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14

SHARE:

Asics Fuzex Lyte Black/Racing Red/White Z63l5984,Specials Nike Dual Fusion Training Shoes Mens BlueGraph/Orng 434973OKAsics Gel-Netburner Ballistic Navy/Silver/Electric Blue B31p8630,,Asics Gel-Quantum 360 Cm Midgrey/White/Green Gecko Y99v8641,Asics Gel-Venture 5 Indigo Blue/Pink Glow/Living Coral W22a8907,.Specials Nike Flex 2016 Run Trainers Shoes Mens White/Black 595318JPAsics Gel-Kayano 21 (2A) Charcoal/Sharp Green/Purple F70h3783,.

publishes all comments posted on articles provided that they adhere to our Comments Policy. Should you wish to report a comment for editorial review, please do so by clicking the 'Report Comment' button to the right of each comment.

Asics Gel-Kayano 22 Coral/Carbon/Silver Grey A25v2874,Specials Nike SB Fokus Skate Shoes Mens Grey/White 340078FQNew Balance 624 U30e3307,New Balance Mothers Day Low-Cut 4040v3 B2w6604,New Balance 998 Age of Exploration K20t4718,CONVERSE / 84 THUNDERBOLT OBSIDIAN / ASH GREY / WHITE 155620CNew Balance 811 Mid-Cut Trainer W34m2360,

Comment on this story
26 comments
Add your comment
Comment 0 characters remaining

Inside News24

 

Welcome to News24

Get Published!
UPLOAD
Nike Air Zoom Wildhorse 3 Total Crimson/Laser Orange/Ocean Fog/Black H29d2003,
Nike Air Zoom Pegasus 32 Hyper Violet/White/Black/Gamma Blue M14j5852,
/News
Nike Air Max 2016 Photo Blue/Total Orange/Black V76y4722,
Traffic Alerts

Nike SB Bruin Hyperfeel Cool Grey/White/Black O64b1063,

Jobs in Western Cape region

Financial Advisor

Western Cape
Lyon Capital

Fieldwork Administrator - Wellington WC

Nike Tiempo Legacy II FG Black/White N32q6299,
Nike Studio Wrap 4 Hyper Violet/Black/Fuchsia Glow T9d1760,
Nike Free Trainer 3.0 V4 Total Crimson/Hyper Violet/Black/White Y25k7398,

Cellular Sales: Store Manager

Nike Air Max Thea Blue Lagoon/White/Green Abyss V35d8082,
Nike Air Force 1 Flyknit Low White/Radiant Emerald/Green Strike/White R27c4871,
Puma Ferrari Evospeed 1.4 Mid 10 Men's Shoes Rosso Corsa-Vibrant Yellow-Black F98p2037,

Puma Bolt Evospeed Disc Sprint Track Spikes Fluo Peach-Rose Red A71n5156,

Puma Basket Classic Textured Men's Sneakers Black B38q5836,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Mossel Bay, Dana Bay

Apartments / Flats Puma Xt S Men's Sneakers White-White R2q1834,

Puma Eskiva Mid Whisper White-Black S72i7663,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Gordons Bay, Gordons Bay Central

Apartments / Flats Puma Pulse Xt Graphic Men's Training Shoes Black-Quarry T77k9192,

Reebok Trail Voyager RS 2.0 Grey S2s7676,

HOUSES FOR SALE IN Touws River, Schoemansville

Houses Reebok ZPrint Train Black I58n9999,

There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.
 
English
2018 Quality assurance - Men Onitsuka Tiger Asics California 78 Vintage Red Navy shoe warehouse,
Nike Dunk High Top Dinosaur Eyes White Earth Yellow Shoes,

Hello 

Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.


Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Settings

Location Settings

Retail Women KD 8 VIII Brand ID University Lime cheaps Green White Red,DC / SPARTAN HIGH WC WNT BLACK / CAMO ADYS400005-BLO2016 Sale Nike Air Max 2014 First Look Women's Shoes Rainbow,,2017 All Black Nike Shoes Women's Nike Free 5.0 Volt/Lava Glow/Sunset Glow/Black Shoes Canada JYN1704243,2017 Buy Nike Women's Nike Internationalist Mid Grey/Turquoise/Orange Fur Shoes Canada PJR3504340,.JORDAN / AIR JORDAN 1 MID BLACK / BLACK-WHITE 554724-0342017 Nike Black And White Women's Nike Magista Onda Fg Volt/Blue Lagoon/Black/White Shoes Canada XWF5204399,.

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.





Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.

 
  • Adidas Pureboost 2 Mens Clear Onix/Grey/White Running Shoes V45139
  • VANS FREAMON (NATIVE) BLACK/MARSHMALLOW MEN'S CLASSIC SKATE SHOES SIZE 11 [Y85r6910]
  • 2017 Best Selling Air Jordan 11 Bred Release Date May 24 2013
  • Puma Womens Mega NRGY Knit Black 1317E
  • Super Discount Nike Zoom KD 4 mtlc bronze/black-chilling red 473679-700
  • The Most Popular Giuliana Romanno Black Knot Detail Blouse For Women Sale
  • Timberland Westmore Boots Potting Soil - Men's Shoes
  • Air Max 90 Mens Shoes Cheap On Sale White Green Black
  • Nike Roshe One Premium Men Casual Shoes Black White Black
  • Uglyfrog #28 Bike Wear Cycling Jersey Long Sleeve Men's Bike Spring Triathlon Top B073ZBGR2D
  • Converse Men's Shoes CHUCK TAYLOR ALL STAR HI TEXTILE - High-top trainers - green
  • Vans Authentic - Port Royale/Black Outlet Store
  • Puma Drift Cat 5 Leather Men's Shoes White-Peacoat R53w3203
  • UK.Shoes Nike Mercurial Victory Indoor Nike Mercurial Victory III Indoor Soccer Shoes Review Women Nike Mercurial Victory IV TF CR7 Indoor Turf
  • Nike Air Jordan Retro IV 4 Grey Green Glow Bred Cavs Fear Men Women Shoes 626969
  • Mens Nike Air Max Deep blue White Nike Air Max 90 BR New Zealand Hot Sale No.2695
  • Boots Men Firetrap Blackseal Cavalier Boots Tan Wholesale Sale
  • NIKE Air Jordan 7 VII Retro White Purple Grey
  • Nike College Basketball Performance Fleece FZ (Gonzaga) 00030274X-GO1 College Navy
  • New Balance Shoes Sale 600 C-Series Cm600Cgr grey/tan NE 4058
  • NIKE / AIR MAX TAVAS PM WHITE / BLACK-PURE PLATINUM 898016-100