Melanie Verwoerd
* Light Green White Air Shoes Men's,

UK - Converse All Star Ct Hi Blu Glitter 555115C R18v4898

2018-05-30 07:47

* Men Gray Black Red Air Max 90,Low-cost direct - New Converse Weapon Mid Black White Larry Bird Size 10.5 U2n7051,* Nike 2014 Air Max 90 Coffee Prm Tape New For Men, * Nike Air Max 90 Hyperfuse Blue Black Qs Men's,* Nike Air Max Tn Black Silver Viii Men's,

Men Get Authentic New Air Jordan Retro 4Th Ivth White Orange Sneakers

If someone experiences an action or utterance as racist does it necessarily make it racist, or does the intention of the "perpetrator" make a difference in how harshly someone should be judged for their words or actions? 

* Nike Air Max Tn I White Dark Blue Black Shoes Men's,Low-cost direct - Converse Damen Ctas Dainty Ox Sneakers Red Neu Schuhe I6q1076,* Purple Black Yellow Canvas Adidas Originals Mens Shoes,,* Sandals Men Green Adidas,* White Blue Adidas Men Iv Porsche,.Low-cost direct - Converse Damen Schuhe Basic Chucks Sneaker As Hi Can Gorillaz Black Wow - 65 % C2,* White Mens Shoes Air Max Bw,.

These questions have arisen with a renewed sense of urgency for me during the debate that erupted after Ashwin Willemse walked off the set of SuperSport recently.

Although I don't want to debate the specifics around this case, it did raise fundamental questions about experience as well as the role of intention for me.

* Yellow White Men's Air Max Ltd 1,Low-cost direct - Converse X John Varvatos Jv Weapon Hi Studded Sneaker Turtledove 142968C I78d6064,High-quality Calvin Klein Viggo Denim Logo Sliders Men 4178-8900,,Wholesale Timberland Classic Lug Boat Shoes Men 5841-6469,High-quality Selected Homme Oliver Suede Shoes Men 8748-2372,.Low-cost direct - Converse John Varvatos Star Player Ev 139735C Size 9.5 Us 43 Eur Black/Grape G25v,Authentic Puma Blaze Of Glory Soft Tech Trainers Men 7831-7874,.

In certain cases of crude racism, such as the use of the k-word or explicit racial or sexual stereotyping, there can be no debate. It is racist or sexist no matter what the perpetrator claims to have been the intention or circumstances. Thus, the courts could rule on Penny Sparrow's tweets and Vicky Momberg's outbursts.

Although there are undoubtedly many people who are still guilty of these overt incidences of racism, I believe it is the less crude forms of prejudice, which are so prevalent in our society, that often cause the biggest damage. It is in the tone of voice, the patronising smile, the body language, institutional cultures and systems. Yet, despite or perhaps because of its insidious nature, it is often tolerated until some trigger causes a dramatic reaction.

Cheap Nike Cortez Ultra Trainers Men 1858-4251,Low-cost direct - Converse Leather Jack Purcell Jp Ltt Turf Ox Men Us 5.5 Wmn 7 T47z6384,Authentic Lacoste LT Spirit Trainers Men 4100-4327,,60% off Sale For Hunter Original Wellies Men 1527-1451,Best Fred Perry Spencer Canvas Trainers Men 2862-8869,Low-cost direct - Converse Leather High Top Trainers Siz.5 Uk B100n9079,100% Quality Dr Martens Talib 8 Eye Boots Men 8144-5415,.

As a white person, I have only on the very rare occasion experienced racism – and it was horrible. But as a woman, I deal with sexism on an almost daily basis. (I immediately want to acknowledge that I am conscious that I am at the tip of the pyramid of injustice. As a woman I experience sexism, but because of my race, class and sexual orientation I will always experience far less discrimination than, for example, a black, gay or poor woman.)

Men Shop Perfect Online Sale Nike Airce First 1St I Blue White Sports Shoes

Authentic Clarks Original Trigenic Nubuck Trainers Men 3541-2945,Low-cost direct - Converse Mens Chuck Ii Shield Lycra Oxford Synthetic Trainers I55a4785,60% Off Discount ASOS Lace Up TrainersMen 3527-9356,,2012 Short Sleeve Ralph Lauren Navy Blue Nyc Team Usa In,Asics Cross Freak 2 Turquoise Track And Field Shoes Lime Mens,Low-cost direct - Converse Mens Jack Purcell Ox Size 13 Surplus Green White Athletic Shoes 149952C,Asics Gel-Game 5 Court White Black Shoes Mens,.

Although I experience crude sexism far less these days (perhaps men are a bit more careful around me), I can think of at least three instances in the last four days where I was patronised by men. I'm sure that all these men would argue that they did not intend to patronise me. Yet, it was without doubt patronising. How can I be so sure? Because, you know it when you feel it.

That is, for me, the key and part of the answer to my original question. If it is experienced as racist or sexist it almost certainly is. You know it when you feel it.

Of course, given upbringing and conditioning linked to our political history, it is also true that people honestly do not always understand that or why something they say or do is racist. Thus, they are honest in their defence of "I did not intend to be racist". However, that can too easily become a blanket excuse. "I did not mean to kill that person" could still result in a manslaughter conviction in court. Equally, "I did not intend to patronise or racially abuse you" can never alleviate the burden of injury or need for restitution.

Asics Gt-3000 4 Blue Yellow Running Shoes Mens,Low-cost direct - Converse Mens Size 8 Chuck Taylor All Star Hi Midnight Hour Casual Shoes New L23h,Asics Orange Leather Black Silver Gel Flash Lightplay 2 Cushioned Running Shoes Nightclubs Patent Ysdcs,,Asics White Silver Multi Blue Court Gel Challenger Tennis Shoes 10 Powder Stovepipe,Canvas Ralph Lauren Pony Nyc Colorful Lables Tote,.Low-cost direct - Converse Mens Star Player Oxford Suede Trainers I8u1087,Men Asics Colour Lightning Volleyball Shoes Gel-Domain 3 Tiger Navy White,.

So what does restitution involve? On the most basic level it requires the willingness to listen and hear the "other" (both individually and collectively) when they express their pain, hurt and anger. There must be a willingness to accept the point of view of the person/s who have been offended, no matter what the intention was. So, not to say: "I did not intend it that way" or "don't play the race card" as I so often hear people say. The listening should be followed by a sincere apology and measures or actions to fix the problem.

Importantly, we should remember that institutional and systemic racism and sexism are even more insidious and thus more difficult to pin down. However, they exist – big time. Those who feel them, know it. As with individual cases, systemic and institutional apologies as well as restitution are extremely important (think: land debate at the moment).

Of course, it does require that someone has to express the hurt or offence that was felt. Often that does not happen and when it finally does people are surprised and shocked.

Men Asics Jump Pro Track & Field Shoes Colour Flash Tiger Black Coral Silver,Low-cost direct - Converse One Star Men'S 9.5 Unisex Hightop Black Canvas High Top Shoe Sneaker X41,Men Long Sleeve Tees Ralph Lauren Sky Blue In Rlmlt,,Men Short Sleeve Tees Ralph Lauren Furniture Arazil,,Polo S-Xxl June-14 Stripe-Collar,Low-cost direct - Converse Pink Baby Girl Size 4 Brand New M84z6579,Ralph Lauren Men Short Sleeve Tees Furniture Germany,.

I have to confess with all three cases of feeling and being(!) patronised I did not say or do anything. There are many reasons for it. I did not want to make a scene, I did not think it would change that person and sometimes I am just tired of fighting a bunch of sexists.

My guess is that many people who experience racism would give similar reasons for not always reacting.

But, I also know that even though I often don't react to sexist behaviour, every incident finds a home in my body and mind where it quietly waits till the one day when I have just had enough. Enough of being patronised through words, body language and actions. Enough of a system that assumes that I am inferior, must earn less and behave in a certain way purely because I am a woman. 

Ralph Lauren Red Down 1934,Low-cost direct - Converse Pro Leather Vulc Ox Lea Shoes Free Time Unisex 148457C Z41h6548,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Gazelle Shoes (Blue) for Kids,,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Crazylight Boost Low 2016 Shoes (Black) for Men,.Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Seeley Court Shoes (White) for Men,Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Hi Top Size 7 Pink Canvas Lace Up Baseball Boots B10z3343,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas EQT Support ADV Shoes (Grey) for Men,.

As many men would be able to testify, once I reached that point of "enoughness" I certainly did not just politely walk off "set".

And so, when someone says, "I feel patronised" or "that is racist" we need to understand that it is always just the tip of the iceberg and all of us (individually and collectively) need to react in a manner that shows some humility and acceptance of our prejudices – intended or not.

Men Buy Comfortable New Arrivals Salomon Blue White Climbing Shoes

Adidas UK Shop - Adidas adizero Discus/Hammer Shoes (Red) for Men,Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Hi Trainers Size 6 T94i3490,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas ACE 17.1 Primeknit Firm Ground Cleats (Green) for Men,,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Manchester United Away Replica Jersey (Black) for Kids,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Aggies Raglan Tee (Grey) for Men,.Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Leather Black Hi Tops Sneakers Trainers Warm Insole Uk8 Eu41.5,Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Grizzlies Swingman Jersey #11 (Blue) for Men,.

Read more on:    prejudice  |  racism
X
Adidas UK Shop - Adidas CLR84 Windbreaker (Blue) for Men,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14
NEXT ON NEWS24X
Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Real Madrid Windbreaker (White) for Men,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14

SHARE:

Adidas UK Shop - Adidas Los Angeles Tee (Black) for Men,Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Jr -3J256C- Y100b8221,IQ506 Nike KD TREY KD5 Kevin Durant Basketball Shoes,,QG838 Nike Kobe 9 IX Low Ndependence Day Black Yellow,Nike Air Zoom Flight 95 Se Men Basketball Shoes Black Metallic Silver White,.Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Nere Personalizzata Con Strass Borchie Fiori E Linguetta O7p143,Nike Hyperdunk 2015 (Team) Men Basketball Shoes University Blue Ice Blue White Metallic Silver,.

publishes all comments posted on articles provided that they adhere to our Comments Policy. Should you wish to report a comment for editorial review, please do so by clicking the 'Report Comment' button to the right of each comment.

Nike Special Field Men Boots Sage Sage,Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Size Uk 9 Eu 42.5 B3s8205,Nike Field General 2 Men Football Shoes Black Bright Crimson University Red,Nike Air Max 2015 Men Running Shoes Black Black Black,Nike Air Zoom Wildhorse 3 Men Running Shoes Cool Grey Anthracite Persian Violet Black,Low-cost direct - Converse All Star Youth Yellow Shoes Low Size 6 Uk 6.5 Us L39c1381,Nike Free Trainer 3.0 V4 Men Training Shoes Black Medium Olive White Radiant Emerald,

Comment on this story
26 comments
Add your comment
Comment 0 characters remaining

Inside News24

 

Welcome to News24

Get Published!
UPLOAD
The North Face EMB Logo Pullover Hoodie Men's 64361,
Billabong Balance FullZip Hoodie Men's 64565,
/News
Billabong Slicke'r Tapered Garage Slim Denim Pant Men's 64779,
Traffic Alerts

Snow Peak Cotton Ripstop Cargo Pant Men's 64991,

Jobs in Western Cape region

Financial Advisor

Western Cape
Lyon Capital

Fieldwork Administrator - Wellington WC

Quiksilver Beach Pant Men's 65171,
Black Diamond Dawn Patrol LT Climbing Softshell Pant Men's 65369,
Billabong All Day X Heather Board Short Men's 66876,

Cellular Sales: Store Manager

Quiksilver Waterman Gone Fishing Board Short Men's 67086,
The North Face Red Rocks Short Men's 67273,
Mammut Zephir Short Men's 67493,

Mammut MTR 201 Tech Short Men's 67659,

Spyder Drayke 1/2Zip Sweater Men's 68195,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Mossel Bay, Dana Bay

Apartments / Flats Timberland Heston Mid GTX Boot Men's 69645,

Danner Pronghorn GTX Boot Men's 69859,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Gordons Bay, Gordons Bay Central

Apartments / Flats Trask Fiske Shoes Men's 70099,

Salomon X Ultra 2 GTX Hiking Shoe Men's 70279,

HOUSES FOR SALE IN Touws River, Schoemansville

Houses Sidi Kaos Carbon Shoes Men's 70472,

There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.
 
English
Nike Air Max 1 Premium Retro Men Running Shoes Mid Turquoise/White-Sport Turquoise-Total Crimson OR6,
Nike Free Trainer 3.0 Mid Shield Men Running Shoes Black/Reflect SIlver-Dark Grey GU24P,

Hello 

Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.


Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Settings

Location Settings

Nike Free Trainer 3.0 Men Training Shoes Black/University Blue-White QC09W,Low-cost direct - Converse Ct Chuck Taylor All Star Boot Pc Hi Mens 153672C Black New D18h7169,Men Sale Authentic Ralph Lauren Big Pony White Diagonal Stripe Navy Breathable Polo,,Men Find Cheap Guarantee Polo Ralph Lauren Mesh Classic-Fit White Short Sleeved,Men Get Comfortable New Balance 574 Black Gray Running Shoes,.Low-cost direct - Converse Ct Pc Side Zip Mid Varsity Red Hi Top Sneakers Trainers 4 Uk 36.5 Eu M24,Men Shop Cheap New Lacoste Coffee Brown Casual Shoes,.

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.





Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.

 
  • Discount 159385 Nike Shox R6 Men White Blue Shoes
  • Nike Lunar Hyperdunk X Low 2012 Jade/White Basketball Shoes 3128116
  • CIARE FXE 6-2 6" WOOFER 6" 8ohm 150 watt
  • MEN'S NIKE NikeLab AIR ZOOM SPIRIDON '16 SIZE 9.5 SHOES BLACK WHITE 849776-003
  • Nike Fc247 Elastico Finale Ii Premium - Men'S - Soccer - Shoes - Pure Platinum/Volt/Poison Green
  • Reebok Womens X Face Stockholm Classic Leather Spirit Shoes Gold G57801
  • Nike Air Max Tailwind 6 Running Shoes For Women in Fluorescence Yellow Black On Sale I25t6116 Factor
  • Onitsuka Tiger Corsair Vin White Grey Mens Shoes
  • Low-cost direct - Converse Mens Chuck Ii Shield Lycra Oxford Synthetic Trainers I55a4785
  • Fashion Mens Puma Play Citi High-Top Trainers Dark Brown
  • REISS - Cassian stretch-cotton trousers Grey HLWTCD
  • Basketball Hyperdunk-0088
  • A Super Favorable Reception - MLB Tampa Bay Rays Authentic Pat Burrell #5 Jersey Greycheap authentic nfl jerseysnfl jerseys wholesaleinnovative design
  • Adidas NMD R1 Runner Best Deals Women Light Onix S79160
  • New Balance D
  • Lavish Leesa Womens Fashion Ankle Boots
  • Aerosoles Womens Shoes / Cork Shoes Aerosoles Alphabyet Sandals AG668812y1b
  • Nike Womens Free 5.0 TR Fit 4 Printed Fuchsia Force Grey Pink
  • Air Jordan XI IE Low "Black True Red" Black/True Red
  • Kd Vii Ep Kevin Durant Red Foot Locker Nike Kd 9 Prix Cheap Nike Basketball Shoes For Men S Black Ni