Melanie Verwoerd
Adidas Springblade 2013 Men Coupon_239,

Cheap 192363 New Balance Classics Ml574 Men Navy Yellow Shoes

2018-05-30 07:47

Shopping 209857 Nike Lunarglide 3 Women Black Red Shoes,Inexpensive 187899 Nike Shox R5 Men Black ShoesAdidas Springblade Women Coupon_327, Christian Louboutin Sale Women Coupon_454,Christian Louboutin Sale Women Coupon_469,

Womens Boots Clarks Enfield Ellen Black Leather

If someone experiences an action or utterance as racist does it necessarily make it racist, or does the intention of the "perpetrator" make a difference in how harshly someone should be judged for their words or actions? 

Christian Louboutin Sale Women Coupon_542,Authentic 223421 Nike Shox R4 Men White Pink ShoesGiuseppe Zanotti Sale Women Coupon_648,,Giuseppe Zanotti Sale Women Coupon_673,Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_787,.Inexpensive 176594 Nike Shox R6 Men White Red ShoesJimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_821,.

These questions have arisen with a renewed sense of urgency for me during the debate that erupted after Ashwin Willemse walked off the set of SuperSport recently.

Although I don't want to debate the specifics around this case, it did raise fundamental questions about experience as well as the role of intention for me.

Jimmy Choo Wedges Women Coupon_947,Buy 216208 Nike Shox R6 Men Black ShoesJimmy Choo Wedges Women Coupon_973,,New Balance Men Coupon_1077,New Balance 574 Men Coupon_1142,.Inexpensive 235450 Nike Shox R4 Men Black Yellow ShoesNew Balance 574 Men Coupon_1257,.

In certain cases of crude racism, such as the use of the k-word or explicit racial or sexual stereotyping, there can be no debate. It is racist or sexist no matter what the perpetrator claims to have been the intention or circumstances. Thus, the courts could rule on Penny Sparrow's tweets and Vicky Momberg's outbursts.

Although there are undoubtedly many people who are still guilty of these overt incidences of racism, I believe it is the less crude forms of prejudice, which are so prevalent in our society, that often cause the biggest damage. It is in the tone of voice, the patronising smile, the body language, institutional cultures and systems. Yet, despite or perhaps because of its insidious nature, it is often tolerated until some trigger causes a dramatic reaction.

New Balance 996 Men Coupon_1315,Authentic 232436 Nike Shox R4 Men Black White ShoesNew Balance Women Coupon_1362,,New Balance 574 Women Coupon_1499,New Balance 574 Women Coupon_1492,Cheap 239670 Nike Shox R6 Men White Black ShoesNike Derrick Rose Men Coupon_1570,.

As a white person, I have only on the very rare occasion experienced racism – and it was horrible. But as a woman, I deal with sexism on an almost daily basis. (I immediately want to acknowledge that I am conscious that I am at the tip of the pyramid of injustice. As a woman I experience sexism, but because of my race, class and sexual orientation I will always experience far less discrimination than, for example, a black, gay or poor woman.)

Womens Sandals Clarks Hazelle Alba Sage Leather

Nike Kevin Durant Men Coupon_1750,Shopping 245553 Nike Shox R5 Men Black ShoesNike Kobe Bryant Men Coupon_1826,,Men's Baseball Cleat Nike Zoom Trout 3 Turf 844628-003,JORDAN FLIGHTFLEX Cool Grey/University Blue/White,Authentic 207264 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White Grey ShoesMen's Football Training Shoe Nike Field General 2 (California) 749310-170,.

Although I experience crude sexism far less these days (perhaps men are a bit more careful around me), I can think of at least three instances in the last four days where I was patronised by men. I'm sure that all these men would argue that they did not intend to patronise me. Yet, it was without doubt patronising. How can I be so sure? Because, you know it when you feel it.

That is, for me, the key and part of the answer to my original question. If it is experienced as racist or sexist it almost certainly is. You know it when you feel it.

Of course, given upbringing and conditioning linked to our political history, it is also true that people honestly do not always understand that or why something they say or do is racist. Thus, they are honest in their defence of "I did not intend to be racist". However, that can too easily become a blanket excuse. "I did not mean to kill that person" could still result in a manslaughter conviction in court. Equally, "I did not intend to patronise or racially abuse you" can never alleviate the burden of injury or need for restitution.

men's NIKE AIR MAX 2015 698902-008,Shopping 168439 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White Blue ShoesMEN'S NIKE ROMALEOS II POWER LIFTING White/Black/Red,,Men's Nike Shoe Kobe Mentality 2 818952-003,Men's Running Shoe Nike Flex Fury 2 819134-008,.Comfortable 234778 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White Red ShoesMen's Running Shoe Nike LunarTempo 2 818097-002,.

So what does restitution involve? On the most basic level it requires the willingness to listen and hear the "other" (both individually and collectively) when they express their pain, hurt and anger. There must be a willingness to accept the point of view of the person/s who have been offended, no matter what the intention was. So, not to say: "I did not intend it that way" or "don't play the race card" as I so often hear people say. The listening should be followed by a sincere apology and measures or actions to fix the problem.

Importantly, we should remember that institutional and systemic racism and sexism are even more insidious and thus more difficult to pin down. However, they exist – big time. Those who feel them, know it. As with individual cases, systemic and institutional apologies as well as restitution are extremely important (think: land debate at the moment).

Of course, it does require that someone has to express the hurt or offence that was felt. Often that does not happen and when it finally does people are surprised and shocked.

Men's Shoe Jordan Horizon Premium 822333-035,Inexpensive 159333 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White Yellow ShoesMen's Shoe Nike Air Huarache Ultra Breathe 833147-001,,Men's Shoe Nike Air Max Excellerate 4 Premium 810798-106,,Men's Shoe Nike Air Zoom Pegasus 32 749340-101,Discount 181003 Nike Zoom Hyperdunk Men White Red Black ShoesMen's Shoe Nike Free Train Force Flyknit 833275-451,.

I have to confess with all three cases of feeling and being(!) patronised I did not say or do anything. There are many reasons for it. I did not want to make a scene, I did not think it would change that person and sometimes I am just tired of fighting a bunch of sexists.

My guess is that many people who experience racism would give similar reasons for not always reacting.

But, I also know that even though I often don't react to sexist behaviour, every incident finds a home in my body and mind where it quietly waits till the one day when I have just had enough. Enough of being patronised through words, body language and actions. Enough of a system that assumes that I am inferior, must earn less and behave in a certain way purely because I am a woman. 

Men's Shoe Nike Metcon 2 819899-701,Comfortable 243031 Nike Shox R5 Men Black Red ShoesMen's Shoe Nike Zoom All Out Low 878670-400,,Men's Shoe NikeLab ACG Lupinek Flyknit Low SFB 853954-002,.Men's Training Shoe Nike Train Prime Iron DF 832219-100,Authentic 173010 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White Blue ShoesNIKE AIR MAX 90 ESSENTIAL White/Wolf Grey/Black/Cool Grey,.

As many men would be able to testify, once I reached that point of "enoughness" I certainly did not just politely walk off "set".

And so, when someone says, "I feel patronised" or "that is racist" we need to understand that it is always just the tip of the iceberg and all of us (individually and collectively) need to react in a manner that shows some humility and acceptance of our prejudices – intended or not.

Womens Shoes Clarks Festival Gold Black Combi

Men's Shoe Nike Zoom Train Toranada 835657-018,Authentic 218819 Nike Zoom Hyperfuse Men Red Black ShoesNIKE INTERNATIONALIST MID River Rock/Total Orange/Summit White/F,,Nike Victory XC 3 Unisex Track Shoe 654693-034,Women's Shoe Nike Air Max 1 Premium 454746-204,.Cheap 208450 Nike Zoom Hyperdunk Low Men Black White Lucky Green ShoesWomen's Shoe Nike Air Rift Grey,.

Read more on:    prejudice  |  racism
X
Women's Shoe Nike Free Transform Flyknit 833410-600,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14
NEXT ON NEWS24X
Adidas D Rose 6 Boys Toddler White/Grey/Black Basketball Shoes V91572,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14

SHARE:

Nike Air Max 90 Boys Preschool Copa/White/Blue Lagoon Running Shoes V48612,Discount 240896 Nike Shox Rivalry Men White ShoesAdidas Messi 15.3 Fg Boys Grade School White/Prime Blue/Black Soccer Shoes V92936,,Nike Huarache Run Boys Grade School Cool Grey/Cool Grey/Wolf Grey/White Running Shoes V46711,Adidas Crazy 1 Mens Metallic Silver/Black/Light Onix Basketball Shoes V63435,.Authentic 182755 Nike Zoom Kobe IV Men Black Grey ShoesAdidas J Wall Mens White/Silver/Clear Grey Basketball Shoes V94302,.

publishes all comments posted on articles provided that they adhere to our Comments Policy. Should you wish to report a comment for editorial review, please do so by clicking the 'Report Comment' button to the right of each comment.

Adidas Solar Boost Mens Vista Grey/Dark Grey/Crystal White Running Shoes V84423,Cheap 221736 Nike Zoom Kd 4 Men Black White Royal ShoesAdidas Ace 15.3 Cage Mens Solar Yellow/Silver Metallic/Clear Grey Soccer Shoes V78313,Nike Air Max Ltd Mens White/University Blue/Neutral Grey Running Shoes V94608,Nike Air Zoom Pegasus 32 Mens Pure Platinum/Vivid Purple/Volt/Purple Running Shoes V70368,Authentic 151327 Nike Zoom Kobe VI Men White Purple ShoesNike Free 5.0 2015 Mens Pure Platinum/Wolf Grey/Cool Grey/Black Running Shoes V70495,

Comment on this story
26 comments
Add your comment
Comment 0 characters remaining

Inside News24

 

Welcome to News24

Get Published!
UPLOAD
Women's Nike Elite Shinsen Wolf Grey/Cool Grey/Sail/Fuchsia Glow UK#N5-9051,
Vans Van Doren Backpack CP102,
/News
Vans Infant Authentic Glitter Trainer CP545,
Traffic Alerts

Nike Junior Roshe Run Trainer CP631,

Jobs in Western Cape region

Financial Advisor

Western Cape
Lyon Capital

Fieldwork Administrator - Wellington WC

Kickers Nursery Kick High Core Boot CP780,
Antony Morato Metal Badge Hooded Top CP962,
Nicce Track Hooded Top CP1109,

Cellular Sales: Store Manager

Antony Morato Hooded Light Jacket CP1217,
Foray Aim Technical Jacket CP1375,
Rains Classic Jacket CP1511,

Asylum Wireless Denim Ripped Short CP2085,

Nike AW77 Short CP2172,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Mossel Bay, Dana Bay

Apartments / Flats EA7 7 Colours Woven Suit CP3604,

Havaianas Brasil Flip Flop CP3837,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Gordons Bay, Gordons Bay Central

Apartments / Flats adidas Originals ZX Flux Trainer CP4005,

adidas Originals ZX 8000 Boost Trainer CP4155,

HOUSES FOR SALE IN Touws River, Schoemansville

Houses Asics Gel-Kayano EVO Trainer CP4245,

There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.
 
English
Womens Boots Anne Klein Coldfeet Wide Black Leather/Black Suede,
Womens Shoes Anne Klein Ovido Brown Reptile,

Hello 

Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.


Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Settings

Location Settings

Womens Boots C Label Binky-2 Camel,Authentic 223485 Nike Zoom Kobe V Men White Gold ShoesWomens Boots Calvin Klein Greta Deep Navy Leather/Elastic,,Womens Shoes Calvin Klein Diema Navy,Womens Shoes Calvin Klein Nodine Oyster Grey,.Cheap 214783 Nike Zoom Kobe VI Men White Purple ShoesWomens Boots CARLOS by Carlos Santana Everett Black,.

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.





Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.

 
  • Cheap 187382 Nike Shox R4 Men White Shoes
  • Nike Air Foamposite 1 X Galaxy NRG Penny Hardaway Shoes Basketball Shoes 3128057
  • RCF LF18X400 18" 1000 Watts 8ohm Ferrite Loudspeaker
  • Nike Pro Cool Girls Training Tank Top Black/White COMUK:6940
  • Nike Alpha Strike 2 Td - Men'S - Football - Shoes - Sport Royal/White/Black
  • Reebok Womens Franconia Ridge Ii Gtx Shoes Vitgrn G57799
  • Nike Air Max BW Women's Black/White-Pink Running Shoes On Sale J15s5916 Best Sale
  • Onitsuka Tiger Low Tops Dark Blue Mens Shoes
  • Low-cost direct - Converse Low Top N1u1547
  • Fashion Mens BOSS Orange Loy Pool Shoes Black
  • QPYWDT Merrell Bare Access Flex Running Shoes Men black (2018)
  • Basketball Griffin-0011
  • Nike Toki Low Textiel - Men Shoes
  • UK Quality assurance - Women Asics Gel Muse Fit Grape Mist Turqouoise Lilac dc shoes
  • New Balance KL530 J Kids Trainers Blue Orange V87 Outlet
  • LeBron 15 Cavs Cheap Jordan Women/Men's Shoes For Sale Online Num: SS035
  • Ahnu Womens Shoes / Black Shoes Ahnu Maia casual closed back Sandals GW85596921u
  • Nike Womens Free 4.0 Flyknit Wolf Grey Black Atomic Pink
  • Air Jordan 7 "Hare" White/Grey-True Red-Green Shop New Jordan Sneakers
  • Kd 8 Ep Nike Zoom Kd Vi Authentic Nike Zoom Kd Vi Nike Kd 8 Ep Viii Kevin Durant Uptempo Blue Mens 8
  • Discount 172136 Nike Zoom Kobe VI Men Green Shoes