Melanie Verwoerd
Men's Shoe Nike Air Zoom All Out Flyknit 844134-313,

Inexpensive 196448 Nike Shox Nz Men Black Shoes

2018-05-30 07:47

Men's Shoe Nike Court Zoom Vapor 9.5 Tour 631458-410,Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_829Men's Shoe Nike Hyperdunk 2016 Flyknit 843390-003, Men's Shoe Nike Kobe Mamba Instinct 852473-001,Men's Shoe Nike Roshe One Hyper Breathe 833125-001,

Womens Shoes New Balance RC1400v3 Pink/Yellow

If someone experiences an action or utterance as racist does it necessarily make it racist, or does the intention of the "perpetrator" make a difference in how harshly someone should be judged for their words or actions? 

Men's Shoe Nike Zoom HyperRev 2016 Limited 820219-100,Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_830Men's Shoe Nike Zoom Train Toranada 835657-560,,Men's Training Shoe Nike Free Trainer 5.0 V6 AMP (Florida State) 723939-706,Men's Training Shoe Nike Zoom Train Complete 882119-400,.Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_831NIKE AIR MAX 90 PREM Black/Metallic Silver/White,.

These questions have arisen with a renewed sense of urgency for me during the debate that erupted after Ashwin Willemse walked off the set of SuperSport recently.

Although I don't want to debate the specifics around this case, it did raise fundamental questions about experience as well as the role of intention for me.

NIKE AIR ZOOM PEGASUS 31 Blue Graphite/Blue Lagoon/Clearwater,Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_832Nike Flyknit Racer Unisex Running Shoe (Men's Sizing) 526628-402,,NIKE INTERNATIONALIST MID River Rock/Total Orange/Summit White/F,NIKE SB LUNAR ONESHOT Team Red/White/Black,.Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_843Nike Zoom Rival Waffle XC Unisex Track Shoe 749350-607,.

In certain cases of crude racism, such as the use of the k-word or explicit racial or sexual stereotyping, there can be no debate. It is racist or sexist no matter what the perpetrator claims to have been the intention or circumstances. Thus, the courts could rule on Penny Sparrow's tweets and Vicky Momberg's outbursts.

Although there are undoubtedly many people who are still guilty of these overt incidences of racism, I believe it is the less crude forms of prejudice, which are so prevalent in our society, that often cause the biggest damage. It is in the tone of voice, the patronising smile, the body language, institutional cultures and systems. Yet, despite or perhaps because of its insidious nature, it is often tolerated until some trigger causes a dramatic reaction.

Women's Shoe Nike Air Max 1 Essential 599820-022,Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_904Women's Shoe Nike Air Zoom Elite 8 748589-101,,Women's Shoe Nike Free RN Flyknit 831070-101,Women's Shoe Nike LunarEpic Flyknit 818677-700,Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_886Nike Tri Fusion Run Boys Toddler Game Royal/Black/Metallic Silver/White Running Shoes V54584,.

As a white person, I have only on the very rare occasion experienced racism – and it was horrible. But as a woman, I deal with sexism on an almost daily basis. (I immediately want to acknowledge that I am conscious that I am at the tip of the pyramid of injustice. As a woman I experience sexism, but because of my race, class and sexual orientation I will always experience far less discrimination than, for example, a black, gay or poor woman.)

Womens Shoes New Balance Classics WL696 Dark Grey/Silver Suede/Textile/Leather

Adidas Messi 15.1 Fg Boys Preschool Semi Solar Slime/Solar Red/Black Soccer Shoes V74369,Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_898Adidas D Rose 5 Boost Boys Grade School Sharp Grey/Dark Onix/Black Basketball Shoes V74458,,Nike Air Max 90 Boys Grade School Summit White/Black/Clay Orange Running Shoes V79352,Nike Cortez Girls Grade School Black/Vivid Pink/White Running Shoes V29470,Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_871Adidas 2015 Crazylight Boost Primeknit Mens Light Onix/White/Black Basketball Shoes V61410,.

Although I experience crude sexism far less these days (perhaps men are a bit more careful around me), I can think of at least three instances in the last four days where I was patronised by men. I'm sure that all these men would argue that they did not intend to patronise me. Yet, it was without doubt patronising. How can I be so sure? Because, you know it when you feel it.

That is, for me, the key and part of the answer to my original question. If it is experienced as racist or sexist it almost certainly is. You know it when you feel it.

Of course, given upbringing and conditioning linked to our political history, it is also true that people honestly do not always understand that or why something they say or do is racist. Thus, they are honest in their defence of "I did not intend to be racist". However, that can too easily become a blanket excuse. "I did not mean to kill that person" could still result in a manslaughter conviction in court. Equally, "I did not intend to patronise or racially abuse you" can never alleviate the burden of injury or need for restitution.

Adidas D Rose 6 Mens Scarlet/White/Black Basketball Shoes V74205,Jimmy Choo Sandals Women Coupon_892Adidas Element Refine Mens Onix/Infrared/Black Running Shoes V67673,,Adidas Adilette Cloudfoam Ultra Mens White/Iron Metallic/Vista Grey Slippers V92143,Adidas Ace 16.3 Fg/Ag Mens Solar Green/Shock Pink/Black Soccer Shoes V77157,.Jimmy Choo Wedges Women Coupon_947Nike Air Max Wright Mens Dark Grey/Deep Royal Blue/White Running Shoes V50331,.

So what does restitution involve? On the most basic level it requires the willingness to listen and hear the "other" (both individually and collectively) when they express their pain, hurt and anger. There must be a willingness to accept the point of view of the person/s who have been offended, no matter what the intention was. So, not to say: "I did not intend it that way" or "don't play the race card" as I so often hear people say. The listening should be followed by a sincere apology and measures or actions to fix the problem.

Importantly, we should remember that institutional and systemic racism and sexism are even more insidious and thus more difficult to pin down. However, they exist – big time. Those who feel them, know it. As with individual cases, systemic and institutional apologies as well as restitution are extremely important (think: land debate at the moment).

Of course, it does require that someone has to express the hurt or offence that was felt. Often that does not happen and when it finally does people are surprised and shocked.

Nike Air Max 90 Mens Squadron Blue/Black/Bright Citrus/Flight Silver Running Shoes V78950,Jimmy Choo Wedges Women Coupon_949Nike Flyknit Lunar 3 Mens Black/Metallic Pewter/Anthracite/Barely Green Running Shoes V21865,,Nike Roshe Ld 1000 Mens Black/Anthracite/Sail/Volt Running Shoes V13613,,Adidas Adizero Adios 2 Womens Blast Purple/Black/Red Zest Running Shoes V38967,Platforms Jimmy Choo Women Coupon_976Adidas Response Boost Womens Clear Sky/White Running Shoes V45181,.

I have to confess with all three cases of feeling and being(!) patronised I did not say or do anything. There are many reasons for it. I did not want to make a scene, I did not think it would change that person and sometimes I am just tired of fighting a bunch of sexists.

My guess is that many people who experience racism would give similar reasons for not always reacting.

But, I also know that even though I often don't react to sexist behaviour, every incident finds a home in my body and mind where it quietly waits till the one day when I have just had enough. Enough of being patronised through words, body language and actions. Enough of a system that assumes that I am inferior, must earn less and behave in a certain way purely because I am a woman. 

Adidas Sprintstar Womens White/White/Green Track & Field Shoes V95327,New Balance Men Coupon_1005Nike Air Max Excellerate Womens White/White/Black Running Shoes V95091,,Nike Air Max Thea Womens Obsidian/White Running Shoes V67360,.Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit 2015 Womens Black/Voltage Green/Lucky Green/Sail Running Shoes V30466,Platforms Jimmy Choo Women Coupon_980Nike Roshe One Womens Black/White/Metallic Platinum Running Shoes V35113,.

As many men would be able to testify, once I reached that point of "enoughness" I certainly did not just politely walk off "set".

And so, when someone says, "I feel patronised" or "that is racist" we need to understand that it is always just the tip of the iceberg and all of us (individually and collectively) need to react in a manner that shows some humility and acceptance of our prejudices – intended or not.

Womens Shoes Nike Dart 11 Game Royal/Deep Royal Blue/White/Pink Pow

Men's Nike Match Supreme White/Black/White/Black UK#N5-9481,New Balance Men Coupon_1034Men's Nike Mercurial Veloce II FG Urban Lilac/Bright Mango/Black UK#N5-9489,,Nike Kids Jr Magista Onda FG Soccer Wolf Grey/Black/Turquoise Blue UK#N5-9146,Nike Zoom Vomero 10 Womens Blue Tint/Racer Blue/Chalk Blue/Black Running Shoes V39966,.New Balance Men Coupon_1048Nike Zoom Structure 18 Womens Lyon Blue/Black/Pink Pow/Clearwater Running Shoes V62935,.

Read more on:    prejudice  |  racism
X
Converse Infant Chuck Taylor All Star High Mono Canvas Trainer CP482,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14
NEXT ON NEWS24X
Kickers Junior Kick T Brogue Shoe CP613,

Local government is in crisis. How it can be fixed

2018-05-30 09:14

SHARE:

adidas Originals Nursery ZX Flux Trainer CP726,New Balance Men Coupon_1022Asylum Lone Stretch Skinny Jean CP822,,Condemned Nation Bing Zip Hooded Top CP987,Nicce Diamond Hooded Top CP1110,.New Balance 410 Men Coupon_1105Antony Morato Wet Look Bomber Jacket CP1214,.

publishes all comments posted on articles provided that they adhere to our Comments Policy. Should you wish to report a comment for editorial review, please do so by clicking the 'Report Comment' button to the right of each comment.

Converse Core Poly Fill Jacket CP1317,New Balance 420 Men Coupon_1109Native Youth Duffle Coat CP1451,Bellfield Halldor 3D Jacquard Knit Jumper CP1776,Asylum Canyon Rip Short CP2082,New Balance 420 Men Coupon_1114Creative Recreation Toluca Swim Short CP2306,

Comment on this story
26 comments
Add your comment
Comment 0 characters remaining

Inside News24

 

Welcome to News24

Get Published!
UPLOAD
Nike Roshe One Print Trainer CP4702,
Nike Koth Ultra Mid Trainer CP4857,
/News
Ralph Lauren Polo Joplin Suede Trainer CP4956,
Traffic Alerts

Vans SK8-Hi Reissue Leather Trainer CP5111,

Jobs in Western Cape region

Financial Advisor

Western Cape
Lyon Capital

Fieldwork Administrator - Wellington WC

Havaianas Womens Slim Flip Flop CP5228,
Womens Shoes adidas Slingshot TR Blue Glow/Raw Purple/Halo Blue,
Womens Shoes adidas Running Madison RNR W Night Grey/Core White/Frost Mint,

Cellular Sales: Store Manager

Womens Sandals Aerosoles Zenchilada Yellow,
Womens Shoes Aerosoles A2 by Aerosoles Lollipowp White,
Womens Boots ALDO Balestreri Navy,

Womens Shoes ALDO Russella Black Leather,

Womens Sandals Anne Klein Hida Dark Orange Gold/Dark Orange Fabric,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Mossel Bay, Dana Bay

Apartments / Flats Womens Shoes Anne Klein AKBloomia Black/Black Fabric,

Womens Shoes Badgley Mischka Blossom Ivory Satin,

APARTMENTS / FLATS FOR SALE IN Gordons Bay, Gordons Bay Central

Apartments / Flats Womens Sandals C Label Tash-11 Rose Gold,

Womens Boots Calvin Klein Talloria Black,

HOUSES FOR SALE IN Touws River, Schoemansville

Houses Womens Sandals Calvin Klein Jeans Valeri Silver Metallic,

There are new stories on the homepage. Click here to see them.
 
English
Womens Shoes Cole Haan Jenni Gore Ballet II Black Patent,
Womens Boots ECCO Abelone Cross Buckle Boot Black,

Hello 

Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.


Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Settings

Location Settings

Womens Shoes ECCO Golf BIOM Hybrid 2 White/Danube,New Balance 574 Men Coupon_1139Womens Shoes GUESS Allen Pink Fabric,,Womens Boots Naturalizer Lamont Wide Shaft Oxford Brown Leather,Womens Sandals Naturalizer Donna White Leather,.New Balance 574 Men Coupon_1162Womens Shoes New Balance WF7534 TPU Molded Low-Cut Cleat White/Silver,.

News24 allows you to edit the display of certain components based on a location. If you wish to personalise the page based on your preferences, please select a location for each component and click "Submit" in order for the changes to take affect.





Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.

 
  • Jimmy Choo Pumps Women Coupon_838
  • New Balance Classics 580 Men TO71629
  • Hot Adidas Originals ZX Flux 3M Black Reflective Snake Mens USA Size 11 Torsion NEW Nike USA Trainer
  • Discount New Balance CRT300 Mesh White Sneakers for Men On Sale
  • Discount Adidas Messi Shorts Black Mens 8556
  • Designers Giambattista Valli White Macram
  • Designed GTA 17Cm Slim Light Cotton Gabardine - Light Blue men's Pants - 55CX228
  • MENS ASICS GT 2000-4 Size 9.5 USA
  • Authentic Timberland Adventure Cupsole Snake Suede Chukka Trainers Men 8411-5830
  • Select 100% Quality Mens Timberland Tidelands Boat Shoes Brown
  • 2016 Sale Nike Air Max 95 Men Brown Gold Shoes
  • Air Jordan 6 Retro - Varsity Red/Black-White-Classic Green Fashion
  • Adidas Barricade Court 2 Outdoor Tennis Shoes White/Matte Silver/Core Black H2m3557
  • Women's Shoe - Nike Roshe Flyknit - Pure Platinum/Cool Grey/White
  • Nike Wmns Roshe Run Womens Shoes High Warm Special Black Green
  • Flats Women Blowfish Glo Linen Ballet Flat Beige Cheapest
  • Cheap Royal Republiq Fashionable Testa Casual Lace Ups Olive for Men Sale
  • Air Jordan 1 Wade Red/Black/White 361898-021
  • Nike Air Max 90 EM Pack White/Black/Team Red Mens Mesh Trainers
  • James 13 grey
  • New Balance 574 Men Coupon_1208